At what point do you end a friendship? Or don't you? At what point do you get involved in something you're not sure you should be involved in? What do you do, when you realize that the values you have, and the values your best friend have, have turned into polar opposites? I'm completely torn.
My married friend confided in me that she is having an extra marital affair with her neighbor. Her neighbor is also married, has two children AND a pregnant wife due in two months. I wish she never told me. My heart breaks for everyone involved- especially the children. Why is it when people jump into an affair, no one ever stops and thinks about the children? About the other people involved that are going to be hurt? The situation my friend has chosen to get involved in is an ugly one- to say the least. It goes against everything I believe in. Again- I wish I didn't know. But I do know. So now what? Do I tell my friend's husband (who is also my friend)? Do I stay out of it? She asked me not to tell Chad. Too late. I told him, and now he wants to tell our friend that his wife is cheating on him with their neighbor. How would our friend feel if he found out that we knew about the affair, and didn't tell him? I'm so torn. I'm also a little sick to my stomach about the whole thing.
So I pray about it. It's my usual way of dealing with things. I tried to make my friend see the error of her ways. She wanted no part in hearing it. I tried really hard not to pass judgement on her, but I also didn't hold back about how I felt about the situation- especially after she told me that she hangs out at the pool with his pregnant wife and their kids. How does she sleep at night? Do I continue to be friends with someone who is a "home wrecker" in my eyes? (doesn't sound very christian-like, now does it?) I love her, but do I keep her as a friend? I'm trying to be the light in her very dark circumstances. It's hard. After all, my dad did the same thing to my mom. Again, no one cared about us- the children involved who were hurt by the actions of the people who are supposed to care about you the most. I'll never look at my friend the same way again. So I sit here. What would God want me to do? So I sit here, completely torn....and still sick to my stomach.
1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: "bad company ruins good morals"
Matthew 7: 1-29 Judge not, that you be judged...
Romans 12:18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all